Comments on: How To Ask For Help http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/ Working To Live Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:04:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: babydoll http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-66777 babydoll Thu, 20 Jul 2006 07:29:13 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-66777 can you help im moving to a highschool and i will have no friends at all can you help
im moving to a highschool and i will have no friends at all

]]> By: Solopreneurial Tendencies http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-629 Solopreneurial Tendencies Sun, 28 Aug 2005 03:17:18 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-629 <strong>When to Say When</strong> I admit it...being an intrinsicly-motivated and highly self-reliant type, I've always had a little problem with asking for help. When to Say When

I admit it…being an intrinsicly-motivated and highly self-reliant type, I’ve always had a little problem with asking for help.

]]> By: David http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-624 David Tue, 23 Aug 2005 03:19:00 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-624 May I add two of my thoughts: (one cent each) 1. Know how to ask. The proven set of words are: "I need your help." Other alternatives such as "Could you help me please?" "I wonder if you could help." etc are NOT as powerful. "I need your help" does more than just ask for help ... it elevates the other person. 2. Mark Twain said "When you need a friend, it's too late to make one." And making friends means helping others. The more we help, the more help we will get in the long run. David www.consultingacademy.com May I add two of my thoughts: (one cent each)

1. Know how to ask. The proven set of words are: “I need your help.” Other alternatives such as “Could you help me please?” “I wonder if you could help.” etc are NOT as powerful. “I need your help” does more than just ask for help … it elevates the other person.

2. Mark Twain said “When you need a friend, it’s too late to make one.” And making friends means helping others. The more we help, the more help we will get in the long run.

David
http://www.consultingacademy.com

]]> By: Sian http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-536 Sian Fri, 12 Aug 2005 14:34:33 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-536 Very interesting. As your article states "One of the hardest parts is knowing when you need help.", finding the balance between needing assistance and starting down the route of relying on others and becoming lazy. I'm very lazy when it comes to my PC I know that either my next door neighbour or Russ will fix it for me. I'm the total opposite when it comes to working with web pages or CSS. I'll sit for hours trying to work something out and instead of asking, and I expect getting an answer I'll just leave things part finished. I've got to work on that. Very interesting. As your article states “One of the hardest parts is knowing when you need help.”, finding the balance between needing assistance and starting down the route of relying on others and becoming lazy.

I’m very lazy when it comes to my PC I know that either my next door neighbour or Russ will fix it for me. I’m the total opposite when it comes to working with web pages or CSS. I’ll sit for hours trying to work something out and instead of asking, and I expect getting an answer I’ll just leave things part finished. I’ve got to work on that.

]]> By: Phil http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-474 Phil Thu, 04 Aug 2005 18:33:43 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-474 Curious what people think about the following: My wife does not like to ask others for help (such as even asking a neighbor to help move somethin heavy). She says that she doesn't want to "owe" anybody else. It just drives me nuts, because my point of view is, "So what? I like helping people." What do people think? What can I do to persuade her it's ok to ask for help? Curious what people think about the following:

My wife does not like to ask others for help (such as even asking a neighbor to help move somethin heavy). She says that she doesn’t want to “owe” anybody else. It just drives me nuts, because my point of view is, “So what? I like helping people.”

What do people think? What can I do to persuade her it’s ok to ask for help?

]]> By: William http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-433 William Mon, 01 Aug 2005 14:17:53 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-433 Good advice.... I tend to work the things out myself but actually, time is limited, asking for help indeed save lots of valuable time but get the job done! Good advice…. I tend to work the things out myself but actually, time is limited, asking for help indeed save lots of valuable time but get the job done!

]]> By: Colin D. Devroe http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-406 Colin D. Devroe Wed, 27 Jul 2005 15:17:29 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-406 Perfect fucking advice. Taken. Perfect fucking advice. Taken.

]]> By: Mike A. http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-405 Mike A. Tue, 26 Jul 2005 03:56:43 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-405 I used to be that way right after I graduated from college, but after working for five years or so, I've come to realize that there are many things I don't know. I still do a bit of due dilligence prior to asking, but if I can't find something, there's sure to be someone around that has already run into the issue I'm facing. Of course, it does help that I'm surrounded many bright and talented people that are willing to help each other out. I used to be that way right after I graduated from college, but after working for five years or so, I’ve come to realize that there are many things I don’t know. I still do a bit of due dilligence prior to asking, but if I can’t find something, there’s sure to be someone around that has already run into the issue I’m facing. Of course, it does help that I’m surrounded many bright and talented people that are willing to help each other out.

]]> By: Yannick L. http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/comment-page-1/#comment-404 Yannick L. Tue, 26 Jul 2005 00:01:45 +0000 http://www.to-done.com/2005/07/knowing-when-to-call-for-help/#comment-404 <blockquote>I bet there are all kinds of people out there who feel the same way.</blockquote> Yup, I definitely fall in that category. Thanks for the tips. They will definitely come in handy as I have had this problem even more so recently since I have had to use ASP and databases at my job. At times I always think I can figure it out on my own, only for days later to still not get anywhere, So a few weeks ago I started asking for help. It's been okay so far even though yes at times I feel silly and embarrased to be asking. I think its good to note that sometimes its good to ask for help as it can lead to the bouncing of ideas between you and the person helping and this can lead to even better results for both of you.

I bet there are all kinds of people out there who feel the same way.

Yup, I definitely fall in that category. Thanks for the tips. They will definitely come in handy as I have had this problem even more so recently since I have had to use ASP and databases at my job. At times I always think I can figure it out on my own, only for days later to still not get anywhere, So a few weeks ago I started asking for help. It’s been okay so far even though yes at times I feel silly and embarrased to be asking.

I think its good to note that sometimes its good to ask for help as it can lead to the bouncing of ideas between you and the person helping and this can lead to even better results for both of you.

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